Where is herself?

Saw a CommDever write on her blog that she felt sort of so lonely and depressed that today's meeting with other fellow students in our program after a long break turned out to be a salvation moment for her. Yet when she got back to her dorm and left herself alone, she began to feel losing herself in loneliness again, feeling blue again. Then a serious philosophical question "Where is myself" started to haunt her mind before she reached a temporary answer that a woman needs to find herself in man's love.

Hehe, she is a girl in her early twenties. Just graduated and almost blank social experience before coming here. Kind of typical Shanghai girl, with a nice family and an almost smooth track of life so far. According to the another friend's comment, her psychological age is almost equivalent to a child. Mmm, I can't say she is childish, yet sometimes she needs to learn a lot of things that one has to face in life. As for her answer, I should say a woman can find a better self in man's love, yet she has to first show a lovable herself, and vice versa.